How a woman can become of God part 3

Is there any verse in the Bible that would prove that, there are times that woman wants to look beautiful for her lover? Let us read Isaiah 3:16—

“… Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes …”

They walk with their wanton eyes; they were proud women.

“… walking and mincing as they go …”

Their hips sway from left to right while walking, as though they were grinders. Let us continue—

"…And making a tinkling with her feet.”

She deliberately makes a tinkling sound with her feet in order to be noticed.

“Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion.”

It had happened in Israel before. God cursed the women because of their coquettish manners. Imagine that? She would even look wantonly while walking. She looked very proud as she tried to produce a tinkling sound with her feet. That only means that she was really trying to entice, or lure, the men for them to follow her. This is what Hosea 2:13 says—

“And I will visit upon her the days of Baalim, wherein she burned incense to them, and she decked herself with her earrings and her jewels, and she went after her lovers.”

She was acting that way because she was looking for lovers. Therefore, if it is true that you are making yourself beautiful because of your husband, then, you should beautify yourself only when he is about to arrive home. Wear perfume when he is about to come; but if you will behave like a coquette, other men will court you. Don’t tell me that married women are no longer courted! There are married women who still want to be courted. Am I right?

One of God’s doctrines for women is to observe modesty and demureness. However, is modesty, or demureness, limited only to manners and behavior? I Timothy 2:9 says—

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel …”

What does modest apparel mean? Let us continue reading—

“… with shamefacedness and sobriety …”

What does shamefacedness mean? I will give you a hint. A popular cliché says, “No modest maiden could be too hard-hearted to a patient suppliant.” A maiden is modest like the Virgin Mary. Have you seen an illustration of Mary wherein she is wearing a micro mini, or a dress with plunging neckline? Have you seen her wearing a long skirt whose slit is up to her thighs?

I once saw a beautiful woman, and she was wearing a very long dress. At first glance, I got impressed by her long dress, but when she walked, half of her thighs were being exposed through the slit in her skirt. Good that she had a nice pair of legs. But, what if her legs are laden with marks of scars as big as coins? Some women adopt the latest fashion even if the style of the dress does not fit her body and her complexion. In the Bible, we were told that God wants the woman to be modest, not only in her behavior but also in her manner of dressing.

We could read from the Bible that the women were being admonished to adorn themselves in “modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety.” This means that a woman should dress up with decency; she must wear modest apparel. And if a woman acts modestly … if she wears modest apparel, nobody will be tempted to rape her. Will she still be raped?

Do you want to be of God? First, you must act modestly; second, you must wear modest apparel. What else? Let us read II Timothy 2:11. This is what it says—

“Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.”

First and foremost, it says, the women must learn to be silent. Why was she told to learn to keep quiet? It is because a lot of women are noisy, especially the married ones. As early as 5, or 6, in the morning she is already talking. She talks endlessly … until midnight. Her husband was already half-asleep, but still, she was nagging him. (“Why don’t you look for a job? You are very lazy! You are shameless! You let me carry all the burdens!"”) She never stopped from talking. Until her husband got fed up. So, her warned her ("Will you stop talking, or not?”) But she kept on talking, so he gave her a punch. She was knocked down. But when she woke up, she started talking again. And louder this time!

This is the reason why one of the commandments of God to women says, “Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.” Why was she asked to be silent? Let us read what Proverbs 9:13 says—

“A foolish woman is clamorous.”

The Bible considers a clamorous, or talkative, woman foolish. Just try to thinks about it my fellowmen. Who among you are clamorous? According to the Bible, a foolish woman is clamorous. Can anything be gained out of a woman’s talkativeness? Let us read Proverbs 14:23—

“In all labour there is profit; but the talk of the lips tendeth only to penury.”

Every labor is profitable, but not can be gained out of a talkative mouth. If you are a woman, does it profit you to talk a lot? There was a tactless woman who, after quarreling with her husband, divulged to her neighbors the secrets that her husband keeps, including his ringworm. A talkative woman would expose your entire being to other people.

Therefore, if you are courting a woman, try to observe her closely. If she is wide-mouthed, she will surely bring you lots of troubles.

A man thinks that he is heading for a peaceful life if he is going get married. What peace are you talking about? Will you ever find peace with a very talkative wife? Instead of peace, you are heading for a troublesome life. Let us read Proverbs 27:15—

“A continual dropping in a very rainy day …”

On a rainy day, rain water pours on your roof. What about it?

“… and a contentious woman are alike.”

Rainwater and a contentious woman are alike. The continuous pouring of rainwater through the leaks of the roof is annoying. Sometimes, you are also being sprinkled with water, so you put a pail right where the drops fall. But even if you do that, you still couldn’t sleep because of the dropping (“plok-plok”) sound they produce.

In the past, the roof of our house used to have leaks. So each time that it would rain, we would put a pail right where the leaking water fell. There was a time when I really had a sleepless night because I was distracted by the sound that the drops of water produced. It was as if, I was counting each drop that fell. And is where a talkative and contentious woman had been compared. God says in Proverbs 21:9—

“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”

Of what use is a big house if you are living there with a brawling woman? It is better to live in a corner of the housetop rather than live in a big house with a brawling and contentious woman. Every day you will sin; every day you’ll be annoyed. You’ll possibly end up in hell. That is why God’s decision is to dwell in the wilderness instead. In Proverbs 21:19, it said—

“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.”

It is better to dwell in the wilderness than to live with a contentious and an angry woman. In that case, there remains the possibility that you might still be saved and be worthy of God. And in order to reform a contentious and angry woman, this is what the Bible says in I Timothy 2:11—

“Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.”

A woman must be under the subjection of her husband. A woman was never given the right to be independent. God has placed the woman under the authority of a man. That is why, one of the doctrines that a married woman must follow is—she must submit herself to the subjection of her husband. How must she submit herself? Let us read Ephesians 5:24—

“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their husbands in every thing.”

Sisters, are you ready to be worthy in the eyes of God? Are you willing to be under the subjection of your husbands? Submit yourself to him completely. For instance, if your husband wants you to dress up conservatively, then, try to dress yourself up conservatively. If your husband does not want you to wear brightly colored dresses, then do not wear brightly colored dresses. If your husband does not want you to gossip and chat with your neighbors then do not do so. Let’s face it there are really women who never stop from talking. That is the reason why God commanded them “to learn in silence with all subjection”. She must submit herself, with full subjection, to her husband. That is why, in the Church, which the Bible speaks of, there are no domineering wives.

A man who is under the dominion of his wife will never be saved. He will sure be damned in hell, because he did the opposite of what God had commanded. What God said was that, the woman must be under the authority of the man. Just consider why Eve ate the forbidden fruit. Adam was not around then. She did not consult Adam first before making a decision. When Eve ate the fruit, she did it out of her own will; she did not consult her husband.